Dating An Old Friend
There are advantages and disadvantages to dating an old friend. Of course it depends on the circumstances. If you have not seen or talked to that person for quite a while they may have changed since then, but if it is someone you have known for a long time there is a good chance of success.
There is always the fear and risk that if things don’t work out it could negatively impact the friendship. But yet some of the most successful relationships are based on being the best of friends.
When comparing it to meeting a stranger, whether online or at a bar, there is always a concern about whether or not the person is real. Are they telling the truth? Is their picture the real them or is it a fake? Is it how they look now, or years ago? Is that their real age, occupation, weight, interests and goals? Are they really single, or not?
All these questions are up in the air when talking to a stranger, but when you consider dating a friend, you should know the answer to most of those questions, so from that aspect it could be a good idea.
That is not to say that there are still things to learn about your friend, and that is part of what makes its fun and exciting. You already know you like them, now you want to discover if you can take that like to love?
Is there a physical attraction? That of course is a big question. Often you never considered that about your friend, but now, you are looking at him or her through different eyes.
My advice is to be open and honest about your feelings. If one of you has made the first step in showing some interest it needs to be discussed. I don’t think something like that can be ignored – that is when it can have a negative impact going forward.
But open and honest communication about feelings, attraction, and goals is something that can help you to determine if there is enough to explore, and damn the risks.
Great rewards can only be achieved when taking risks…calculated risks…and in my book love is worth taking a risk for.